Saturday, January 10, 2009

What To Expect When You're Expecting In Japan!

Upon request, we thought we'd give you a little update on the pregnancy and share a few of the challenges of being pregnant in a foreign country! Angie is 17 weeks now. For those of you that get confused with the counting of weeks, then it roughly translates to the end of 4 months. It's due the end of June. We hope to find out it's gender next month!
A Few Challenges of Being Pregnant In A Foreign Country:
  • Japanese women that can't ask me how the baby is doing because of a language barier resort to patting my belly or sometimes other inappropriate areas! They've been doing this since we found out we were pregnent....belly or no belly! To tell you the truth I have mixed feelings about this. All I can do is nod my head and smile:)
  • Shopping for maternity clothes in Japanese sizes! The expecting women here don't get very big! Although, I haven't bought any new pants yet I look at the size of them and wonder if I can even fit my arms in the places for my legs!
  • Just smiling at the nurses when they are taking my blood and any other test b/c I don't really know that they are doing to me at the time.
  • Asian countries have a very different perspective on what a woman should and shouldn't do throughout a pregnancy. I've been told NOT to do a great many things for example...ride the trains, drive a car, do any exercise besides housework, basically don't reach for anything and the list can go on! Some women go to live with their mother's or vice versa during this time and right after the birth. Some women quit their jobs when they find out they are going to have a baby! It surprises the Japanese that I have continued doing ministry work and other things that I did before.
  • The list of foods that the Japanese recommend for a pregnant women is not to my liking. Basically, I should stock up on dried crunchy fish and seaweed! Eating raw meat isn't really frowned upon either.

Oh, what an adventure it has been to have this kind of experience in Japan!

It has been a blessing to have a Dr. that speaks English. However, I can't make an appointment with her very easily because no one else at the hospital speaks English. Basically, I just show up and hope that she's working that day. If she is, then they usually rush me into a room in less than 30minutes of waiting! So, there are some perks not being able to speak the language.
I must say that the Dr, Surugi Sensei, goes out of her way to explain things the best she can in English and translate some of the paperwork. I do the best I can to make a list of simple questions before each visit and we make it work somehow. However, it will be nice to get more explicit explanations when I get back to the states. I do get to have an English/Japanese book that I take to every visit and Surugi Sensei records all tests and pregnancy information. Actually, this book has a place for ALL medical records until the child is 6 years old....including a birth certificate!
Each visit is pretty much the same as in America, I assume. Except that they give Ultrasounds (Sonograms) each appointment from the first month of pregnancy and it's virtually free. Yes, you read that correctly! I've recently have been learning about the prices of having a baby in the states and I have to say that I don't understand why Sonograms are given so few times at such a high cost! Anyways, tonikoku...... Also, you probably don't have to take off your shoes when you get onto the examination table or sometimes when you enter the hospital for that matter:)
If you've been to Japan, then you've recognized their concern for efficiency! Although some of their hospital equipment and facilities look like they're from the 1950's, they're patient care can't compete with anyone. I've been told that after delivery the mother and baby stay in the hospital for about 10 days. Which is fairly common in Japan in almost any case! The reasoning behind this is so the mother can get some rest and doesn't have to worry about cooking or cleaning or anything else housework related. I think it's great! Many times you get you're own private room. Many countries can learn something from this! Now, the Japanese don't worry about the cost of the stay or other medical costs because they have Socialized Care. In fact, the Japanese are now paying people when they have children because statistics show that the population is decreasing.
In some of these ways we regret not having the baby here in Japan. However, we wouldn't want to miss out on this special time with our loved ones like you!

3 comments:

Rachel said...

Dear Nick and Angie,

I am so excited for you and your new little one! It seems to me that having your baby in Japan might be the best bet, except that you would have to deal with the wrath of the grandparents! :) Trust me, there is no wrath like that of a grandparent scorned. :) Anyway, I wish you all the best and can't wait to meet your new little guy (or gal as the case might be). Have a blessed day!

Rachel (Belcher) Moore

Mike said...

Hello- I stumbled across your blog while doing google searches on Kendo in Japan. I'm an American recently moved to Japan (Tokyo), and would love to meet another foreigner doing Kendo. What part of Japan do you live in?

Russell B. said...

Angie:
posted a comment on facebook that I wondered what you were up to and someone pointed me to your blog. Congrats on your pregnancy. We had our first baby in October and are enjoying being new parents.
Keep up your good work.
-Russell Brown